Second Month

Ever since auntie L shared with me on her baby tips, plus my own readings and research, I trust I can be a good mother.

First month: They spend most of their time at hospital, I typically raise them in hospital. They both cried non stop, or one after another for milk or discomfort, I was trained to accept their cry as part and parcel of my life.

At first, I couldn't take it, especially they both cried non stop round the clock. Feeding gap was about 2-3 hours each baby, imagine I took care of them alone in hospital, nurses only help as and when they are free, was really exhausted, very tired, very sad, don't know what to do except cry in front of hubby every day.

Hubby comes every night to help few hours, but still I couldn't rest as the room was brightly lighten, plus my babies or other babies crying...and their oxygen sensor keeps on making tut tut sound at the time, just next to my pillow...sigh!

I had 2 confinement lady but I think it was the simplest  job that they did, my twins at hospital most of the time, typically they only take care of my twins few days then my twins admitted to hospital...the rest of the time, one cook and another one drive to hospital to send me confinement meal....towards the end of confinement, I couldn't stand but beg them to take shift for me to take care of twins at hospital, they were not very happy, saying that first time they do confinement at hospital and they never seen such cases before, one of them also claim hospital lots of virus, she doesn't want to get infected and etc...sad, in the end, they helped but one help one day, the other few days ( about 4 days, alternate days only )

Second month: Finally discharged and was able to hire another confinement lady as stay in nanny to help me at home. Her name is Ah L, also starts from L...First few nights, don't know why, twin 2 keeps on crying at night, also vomit milk, twin 2 starts vomit milk since at first month, don't know why, may be we overfeed her, The confinement lady and Ah L said stomach got wind, so need to applyt oil 如意油。。。or eat Eu Yan Sang Bo Ying Compound.
I also had differences with Ah L on the way she handle my twins, she keeps on carry them, swing them in her arms to make them sleep, especially when they cry. I told her let my babies sleep on their own, I live with them for close to a month at hospital, I know they can sleep without carry them, also since she works for me one month only, I cannot afford to keep on carry or swing them alone after she leaves,especially I wasn't sure at that time whether I could find any nanny or not. She wasn't happy with me, she said baby sure cry if they haven't deep sleep, why not let her carry till they deep sleep then only put them to bed!

Second night, she keeps on carry twin 2 whole night, somehow twin 2 keeps on crying, she said she looks for me as I was breastfeeding her, after I fed twin 2, twin 2 still refuse to sleep, she carry twin 2 almost whole night long, carry and swing her to sleep, but twin 2 still not sleeping, the next day early morning, about 5am, I over heard she scolded twin 2, she said : " What you want? This one cannot that one cannot! So bad girl...." My heart broken, luckily I was with them together with nanny sleeping at living hall, else I wouldn't know she is so frustrated with twin 2

On third  day, she said she cannot work with me, she wants to resign and leave immediately. I was panic, hubby said better keep her as I have no option last minute and I was so tired returning from hospital. Hubby also said I should not interfere how she works, she has her way, we cannot detect her way especially she is already aged, around 60 years old and quite stubborn. Hence, I  apologize to her, and beg her to continue work for me.  I will compromise on her way, at first she said she helps one week, after one week, I ask favor again, eventually she agrees to continue to work till end of the month since I never interfere how she works.

After all, I appreciate she was willing to continue work for me, as she never sleeps at night, she stays awake to look after my twins, when my twins cry at night , she just make milk, feed them, change  their pampers. Typically she never sleeps throughout the night, she stays awake with coffee, do some reading on confinement recipes & etc. So in the afternoon, I let her take few hours nap and I handle the twins alone.

Also things that I learn from her:
1.  Twin one was having dandruff, she seek advice from her 80 year old friend whom have lots of experience, apply oil ( that time we use olive oil ) on their head, then shower them.

2. She potty trained my twins, during her stay, my 2 month old twins were poo at a routine, around 6am to 630am.

3. She helped me boil bitter gout water for twins to release heat on their face and body

4. She has 3 children, she raised her children on their own and all her children do housework and can cook.

5. Her husband is a plumber, she also help me to fix my water tap which was "sumbat" by just opening the cap

6. She fixed my trolley